Writer Ann Sheybani has learned a few things about love that her mama never taught her. In her early twenties, she believed that “the next step was to find a man and that a man was going to be [her] plan.”
She met and married an Iranian graduate student, who was ten years her senior, and thought, “Here’s a guy who is going to take me places.” But, as she recounts, “What I wasn’t paying attention to was that he was a staunch Muslim, that he’d been raised in a little middle eastern village and that his expectation was that he was going to eventually go home with his PhD, marry a virgin from the village and live happily ever after. There was nothing about an American young woman that fit any of that.”
In this fascinating interview, Ann shares:
- what it was like living in the with her husband and his family
- her decision to leave and bring her children back to America
- the subsequent divorce and rebuilding phase of her life
- how she met and married the ideal mate, her current husband
We also spoke about the forgiveness process and what she learned going through it: “When you start recognizing the role you play in the drama, it leads to forgiveness.”
Ann holds a Master’s degree in Creative Literature and Writing fromand a B.S. in Chemistry from the . Her work has been published in The Charles River Review and her memoir, A Lost Girl’s Guide to Iran, is nearing completion. She is also an accomplished mountain climber, marathoner, sailor, scuba diver, and tango dancer.
This interview is now available in the Archives.