This year’s HeartPath is fast approaching.
I have one question for you…
This year’s HeartPath is fast approaching.
I have one question for you…
In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed… it must be achieved.” ~ Franklin Delano Roosevelt
On July 4th, 1776, Congress approved the Declaration of Independence establishing The United States of America as an independent nation.
We celebrate this day with fireworks, barbecues (both of which I am a fan) and parades (of which I am not such a fan… I’m an introvert remember).
Independence is not something that is given freely. For many patriots, the cost of freedom meant laying down their lives in service of liberty. There’s often a long, hard road to freedom.
But it’s worth it.
Freedom to me is choosing my career based on my personal HeartPath… Not what anyone else thought I should do.
Coaching wasn’t the obvious choice. It’s not even what I went to school for…
I’ve been a writer longer than I’ve been a coach, and technically, am more credentialed as such, having completed the terminal degree in creative writing within the Fine Arts category (MFA).
But I make my living as a coach because that is what makes me feel most alive.
I am a freedom junkie and coaching affords me the luxuries of time, money and energy. It is not work for me to coach, but it is work for me to write. There’s a quote I adore that says, “I hate writing, but I love having written.” This is true for me.
In coaching, I have the freedom of location (I can coach from anywhere), time (I make my own schedule, work 5 days a week, and take a whole month off each year) and money (I set my own rates and am in charge of how many clients I want to work with at any given time).
Freedom isn’t an easy path… For the patriots there were many battles and bloodshed. For me, the cost of freedom was losing everything I had worked for years ago. I lost my house, my apartment, my sense of worth, and even friends.
I am well aware of the toil and blood and treasure it will cost us to maintain this declaration, and support and defend these states. Yet through all the gloom I see the rays of ravishing light and glory. I can see that the end is worth all the means. This is our day of deliverance.” ~ John Adams
On this Independence Day, a question…
What is the cost of your freedom? And is it worth paying for?
If it is, you must become a revolutionary in your own life. The cause that you are defending is your own greatness. Your purpose.
The war is not over when you declare independence. The Revolutionary War went on until 1783, eight years beyond the signing of the Declaration. You still need to do the work, face the battles and maintain a steadfast focus on victory.
You need to continue until you achieve the freedom you have been seeking.
It’s worth the cost, for in the end, there is nothing sweeter than the taste of freedom.
I wish for you ravishing light and glory.
Enjoy the fireworks tonight,
If you’ve been following my work for a while, you might know that I’m a die-hard Chicago Bulls fan. Today, Jimmy Butler agreed to a five-year, $95 million contract to re-sign with them.
I’ll get to what that has to do with you in a moment, but here’s what happened…
Last October, the Bulls offered him a four-year, $44 million contract extension. He declined.
He believed that if he could perform at a high level last season, it would up his value as a free agent.
And he was right. He went on to average a career-best 20 points, 5.8 rebounds and 3.3 assists, develop into a 3-point threat and was named the NBA’s Most Improved Player of the Year, in addition to being a part of the All Star team.
“It came down to me deciding that I want to bet on myself,” Butler said.
So why am I telling you about what’s going on in the NBA today?
Because, in a way, jumping into a coaching career is betting on yourself big time.
As a former Fortune 100 employee turned entrepreneur, I know the ins and outs of business and what it takes to make it work. I learned it the hard way, but I don’t want that for you.
I want to make it easy and effortless for you. That’s why I’m offering you a map, and that map is Cor.
Cor Coach Training Academy isn’t just about coaching… It contains a lot of business growth and personal development as well.
But it’s going to take betting on yourself and that’s not something I can talk you into, or convince you of if you’re not there already.
Registration for Cor closes tonight in just 4 hours. It’s your final opportunity to choose Cor, which will propel your life forward, or to keep doing the same old thing, and settle for the offers that turn up.
I hope you’ll bet on yourself like Butler did. Those are the kind of people with whom I love to work. :)
Follow your HeartPath,
P.S. Click here to learn more about Cor
P.P.S. Class starts next week. Can’t wait to see you there!
I believe everyone should have a coach, but the truth is you don’t need one.
There are zillions of books, programs, courses and tons of life experience to teach you everything you want to know. No one needs a coach.
OK, confession time…
I have an unhealthy relationship with books. Buying them, reading them, reading about them, even just looking at them. I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars on books—Kindle books, eBooks, and real books. (My version of heaven is an enormous bookstore where all the books are free.)
I’ve learned a lot from the books I’ve read, but here’s why I have coaches in addition to the knowledge I glean from books. A book doesn’t speak to me as an individual knowing my strengths and weaknesses, knowing what will be challenging or easy for me, or even knowing my preferences and opinions. I want a real-life person who can challenge me to do the things from which I hold myself back. Someone who can hold my hand through the parts that are hard or scary. Someone who has gone before me and can show me the way.
Which brings me to another point: If you’re going to hire a coach, choose one who has done what you want to do.
Are you building a business? Creating an extraordinary relationship? Staying fit in the midst of your busy lifestyle? Or just looking to keep it all balanced at a high level of performance?
Hire the expert that lives and breathes those things.
In COR, my coach training program, I talk a lot about coaches feeling the need to be perfect. While I don’t advocate that any coach needs to be perfect (which is not possible anyway), I absolutely insist on coaches that go through COR are true to their own message.
If you want to be a health coach and you’re sick all the time, that just doesn’t jive with me.
Coaching, for me, is like inviting my clients behind the scenes of my life. They get to see behind the curtain and learn how it’s worked for me.
Right now I’m working with a writing coach. Do I need him?
Well, no. I have an MFA in creative writing which is the terminal degree in that field. But there’s something that a degree and all the books in the world can’t offer. And that is the power of working with a good coach.
Yes, I have friends who want the best for me and encourage me to push past my limits. But they don’t have a vested interest in my success. They have their own lives and families to focus on.
The truth is that there will never be someone who is harder on me than me. But it’s a whole different deal when I can invite someone else into the conversation in my head. Then they’re able to see the crazy, call the bullshit, or see something beautiful right beneath the surface that I’d missed.
Many years ago, I read something by Martha Beck that helped me tune into my own intuition as a coach. She described how she would get a certain visceral feeling when her clients were on the verge of something big or clearly on the right track toward transformation.
For me, it’s a subtle tingling in my lower jaw, right along the edges of my cheeks. It happens every time, but I hadn’t made the connection prior to hearing it from her. I was able to learn about myself through Martha’s experience.
Ultimately, that’s what coaching is. It’s about teaching someone about themselves. It’s not to say that I know everything about my clients, but I can help them understand what it’s like to be a human seeking fulfillment. I can show them tools to use in the process. I can be an example of possibility. I can shine a light on their potential so that they themselves can see it more clearly.
I love coaching. I love my clients. And I love you for reading this.
Yesterday I was kicked off Facebook (temporarily) and my post was banned.
Here are three things I learned in the process:
No one ever believes that I get hate mail, but this one is pretty standard.
How would YOU respond?
My typical MO is not to respond at all. I mean, why even get into it?
But this one inspired me to set the record straight on some things.
Thanks for this opportunity, Jacqueline. ;-)
So as I see it, this person is basically calling me a prostitute… I get my husband off, take his money and then go “elsewhere” to satisfy my needs…
Yeah… Not exactly a great rapport building technique if she’s actually interested in a response.
Since when does loving someone with a disability automatically make you a gold-digger or a sex worker?
Years ago, I might have responded from ego with something like, “Hang on… You insult me by insinuating that I need/want money from my husband and then you expect me to open up to you about my sex life?” WTF?
Today, my first thoughts are more along these lines… “Wow… who hurt you so badly?”
Because here’s what I know…
The amount of pain that someone has to be in to write something like this must be fierce and overwhelming, forcing their ego to stand in strict defense of their barricaded heart.
THIS is exactly why I love what I do…. Waking people up to the power in the center of their chests. Often, they’re just scared of what their hearts would have them know.
I find that those who are the hardest to love are those who need it most. It’s easy to write them off and be angry in return (and they *do* make it easy), but I know that they’re just stuck in their heads, swimming in the lies their egos would have them believe.
Another generalization here is that a person with a disability is asexual or unable to sexually please his or her partner.
So let me set the record straight once and for all… My husband and I have an awesome and fun sex life (although you won’t get me—privacy advocate that I am—to go into more detail than that).
Jaded and cynical? Yep, I believe so.
P.S. Dear Jacqueline, When you write to a public figure, you open yourself up to this stuff. ;-)
P.P.S. I hope love finds you, sneaks past the guards of your heart and unlocks the best part of life for you.